Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Wow, she's posting again already?

I know, right?? I'm sorry my blogging is so sporadic these days. Trying to have a set schedule right now isn't working out so well, so I am now the blogger who blogs when inspiration hits.

Today, inspiration hit.

You've probably seen this quote circulating on pinterest or FB. But just in case you haven't, here it is:

COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY.


Oh. My. Word.


This is so true -- in all aspects of life. I am the worst at this, constantly comparing myself and finding myself lacking. And it definitely sucks the happiness out of life. I reach a goal, or do something I'm proud of, or have a good day, or WHATEVER. And I feel happy. Elated, even. Until I start thinking about those authors over there who were faster, bigger, better. Or that mom who has a cleaner house, and perfectly dressed children (not two boys who love to dress themselves in questionable outfits in the matching department), AND she's skinnier than me. Even though she's eating a big piece of cake.

Suddenly, I'm not so happy anymore.

See what I mean?

I've got to stop. I'm going to stop. My journey is mine and mine alone. The only person I'm competing with is myself. The only battle is with my own doubts and fears and desires and dreams.

How about you? Do you ever do this? (Please say I'm not alone...)

8 comments:

Ruth Josse said...

I love that quote! One of my favorites because I can't help comparing myself to others. I do it ALL THE TIME, and have to tell myself, "Stop it! You're awesome too." :)

Becky Wallace said...

Actually, I hadn't seen that quote. Thanks for posting it! And I think a lot of us writers/moms/people feel the same way. We just have to do our best to do OUR best. I know, I know. Easier said than done.

Renee Collins said...

"AND she's skinnier than me. Even though she's eating a big piece of cake."

This line made me lol. :)

But yeah, I *totally* feel you here. There are time when I literally ban myself from the internet, because it makes me too down on myself. Too much comparing. It sucks the life out of you.

Carolina Valdez Miller said...

I hadn't seen that, but it's so spot on. And so are you. Your journey is yours and yours alone. We are our own worst enemies, I think. Because while we're fretting about how much better other people have it than us, they're not thinking about us at all. Live your life and hold on to your joy. Yes yes yes. You have so much to offer the world. You already are.

Maegan Langer said...

I love that! When I was a kid, my mom told me that comparing yourself to others is self-destructive. As I've gotten older, I've realized how true that is, in all areas of life. I just try to remind myself: write the book only you can write, live the life only you can live.

Elle Strauss said...

I never compare myself to others. How tall did you say you were again? #heightchallenged

DL Hammons said...

Yes and no. Yes...I do compare myself to others. I believe its inevitable. How can you know where you stand unless you look around you? However, I don't let the comaprisons get me down. That's negative thinking and unproductive. Focus on being the best version of YOU! :)

Carolyn V said...

*sigh* Yes I do. I need to stop that too, but sometimes it's harder said than done.